The world as seen through dreams
Dreams in the category Mutual Dreaming
October 20th, 2010

How to have a mutual dream

Dreaming TogetherYou can have a mutual dream just like you would incubate any other dream. Try Google with “incubate dream” for more information.

If you’re already in the habit of sharing your dreams with others, you’re all set. Otherwise you will have to start this habit. With a meeting dream you want confirmation from the one you met. With a meshing dream, you won’t even know about the meshing unless you share the dream with others.

Don’t forget, you’re likely to already have mutual dreams.

October 17th, 2010

Meshing versus meeting

Book cover Mutual DreamingThere’s much more shared dreaming than we’re aware of. When somebody mentions shared dreaming you may only think of people meeting each other in a dream. It’s still the most obvious way to think about shared dreaming. It’s the type of shared dreaming movies can be made about. Think of movies like The Matrix, or more recently Inception. If you think that the possibilities in these movies are rare or even impossible then you’ve seen nothing yet. In the real world there’s another type of shared dreaming that’s probably very common.

Among the pioneers of mutual dreaming it has been Linda Lane Magallón who in the book Mutual Dreaming explains different types of mutual dreaming. The meshing dreams are especially interesting. A meshing dream happens when two or more people have exactly the same dream. Linda gives an example where a meeting dream would have both dreamers sitting in a Porsche, one behind the wheel and the other one driving along. In a meshing dream, both dreamers would have exactly the same dream of driving the Porsche, without the other dreamer being present in the dream.

In the book Linda says that of 124 mutual dream accounts 36% happen to concern meeting dreams. The remaining 64% are meshing dreams. That means that for every meeting dream there are two meshing dreams. The book was published in 1997 and we have had time to get a little more experience with mutual dreaming over the last 13 years. My impression is that there are substantially more meshing dreams than meeting dreams, more than 2 to 1, but it’s hard to put a number on it.

There are two challenges with getting a reliable count of meshing dreams. The first challenge is to catch meshing dreams. We probably overlook many of them. It’s easy enough to get confirmation on a meeting dream. The person you need to ask is in the dream, so you know who it is. With a meshing dream you’re usually clueless whom you should ask. There isn’t enough time in the day to just ask everyone. We could have lots of meshing dreams every night, without knowing it.

The second challenge is to decide when exactly a same dream counts as a meshing dream. Some meshing dreams shouldn’t really be counted as such. Mutual dreams need to demonstrate some kind of communication. Sometimes we accept a same dream as sufficient proof of some kind of communication, like in the example of two dreamers driving a Porsche. What if two people drove different cars, yet with the same color? What if these two people with the same dream belong to a group of 40 dreamers who all submitted several dreams on that same night? With enough dreamers and dreams I expect to see similarities somewhere, so if you count every similarity you probably count too many.

I suspect that it adds up to underestimating the number of meshing dreams compared to meeting dreams. I could be wrong about it, but either way, if you’re interested in mutual dreams, you’ll have to be ready to deal with both meshing and meeting dreams.

October 14th, 2010

My first meetings in dreams

AC DCI was born in a time when everybody forgot their dreams. Many of us still do. Between falling asleep and waking up there’s only amnesia. However, dreams can be remembered . Once remembered, if you don’t like them, dreams can also be changed. That’s dreaming 101. The next step is even more exciting, because it looks like we're all connected in dreams.

I found my very first experience with connecting to somebody else in a dream unsettling. A friend showed up and he seemed to have some unspecified emotional problems that surprised me. I found this a bit too challenging to check with him. It may or may not have been a true connection, but it was convincing enough for me to reconsider many of my assumptions about dreams and reality in general. Suddenly dreams were much more than a virtual world inside my own head. Anybody could step into those dreams, friends and family, but also an unlimited number of strangers.

Dreams were considered extremely obscure at the time, so I didn't quite know how to proceed. I knew that mystics sometimes say that we’re all connected. I never expected that this would be so clearly visible in dreams. I wasn’t quite sure whether I liked it.

Many years later I had a partially confirmed meeting in a dream with a stranger. In that dream I met a man who had a remarkable interest in the rock band AC/DC. I woke up being amazed by the emphasis on this band. Assuming that this dream was all about me, I couldn’t figure out why a band that didn’t hold any meaning to me should be so important. Later that day I received an email from a stranger who had written a book that he wanted me to read. Something about our email interaction reminded me of the dream, so I asked him about music he liked. I don’t remember the exact details of that conversation, except that he indeed confirmed that he was a huge fan of AC/DC.

Somehow I could handle this second experience much better already. Still, it leaves one wondering. During sleep we have many dreams every night again. How many of these dreams could be shared with others? Given that most of our world is inhabited by strangers, we could be dreaming with others all the time without knowing it. Even worse, it may just be possible that we’re dreaming with people we do know without recognizing it. There is quite some support for the possibility that we're mutual dreaming all the time. I’ll tell more about this later.